I never thought that marriage and love would be so demanding. You always think they go hand-in-hand but it seems that it doesn’t. After being with someone for almost 12 years, I realize it takes work to stay together. Of course, I ,as well as all of you, wish that it was like in fairy tales. You meet your prince, fall in love, and get married. No one ever thinks about what comes next. What do you do after all the new found love fades and real life starts? Kids, money, work, bills, cooking, cleaning, and not too mention Loving each other. It makes me tired just saying it all. How do you find the time to take care of YOUR life and be in another’s? How do you find time the time to be happily married?

I am here to tell you it ain’t easy. After 12 yrs, 4 kids, and the stresses of life, easy is far from it. We have just recently REALLY started making the marriage more about us. For, it seems, years we were just going through the motions of marriage. The standard “I love you’s” and casual talk, hurrying to get to the kids. I guess I wasn’t really aware of what was going on. I was so busy paying bills and taking care of the kids and the household, I totally forgot about working on my marriage. Ok, so now that I am aware, what do I do?

The first thing is to get some time away from the kids. Then start going out together and acting like we did when we first met or just sit in and watch a movie alone. Once you start really paying attention and being happy the marriage just falls right in place. You know you are on the right track when you start to do the little things for them, without even noticing.

• When your man is tired, you get the kids to back off from him for a while.
• When he even looks at the kitchen, you are already walking in to get him something to eat.
• If he loves to eat you are suddenly studying to be a chef, trying new recipes just to make him happy.
• Don’t let him get sick, you turn in to an RN, taking temperatures, dispensing medications, helping him to turn the channel (with the remote!).

The list goes on and on……

I am basically saying, “Marriage isn’t easy, it takes two to make it work”.

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